Section 2. The Diagnostic Test. The Map of Relationship Models

This test consists of 100 statements. Each statement reflects a particular model of behavior in relationships. Read each statement carefully and rate how well it fits your current state of life. Answer honestly. There are no right or wrong answers here. This is a tool for self-knowledge, not an exam.

Rating Scale

SCORE	MEANING
1 point	Not at all true for me
2 points	Rather untrue
3 points	Sometimes true
4 points	Rather true
5 points	Completely true for me

BLOCK 1. The “Lilith” Model (Questions 1–8)

1. 1. I believe that money guarantees security in a relationship more than feelings do.
2. 2. If a partner has no financial stability, I see no future with him.
3. 3. I judge potential partners by their status and their means.
4. 4. Love can be bought, if you have enough money.
5. 5. I feel safe only when I have a financial cushion.
6. 6. In a relationship, gifts and provision matter more to me than words of love.
7. 7. I don’t trust people who have no material resources.
8. 8. Without money, a relationship is doomed to fail.

BLOCK 2. The “Puttana” Model (Questions 9–16)

1. 9. I don’t care what other people think of me.
2. 10. I am ready to break the rules to prove my freedom.
3. 11. My rebellion against the system matters more to me than a quiet life.
4. 12. I attract attention through scandals and provocations.
5. 13. Everything is allowed to me; I do whatever I want.
6. 14. I know best—don’t teach me how to live.
7. 15. I take pride in the fact that I can fall very low and feel no shame.
8. 16. Society is hypocritical, and I have the right to answer it in kind.

BLOCK 3. The “Hippie” Model (Questions 17–24)

1. 17. Life is fleeting; you need to live here and now, without planning the future.
2. 18. There is no need to prove anything to anyone, including career achievements.
3. 19. I prefer freedom to commitment, even if it means instability.
4. 20. You should try everything in this life, including the forbidden things.
5. 21. Planning the future is pointless; everything will change anyway.
6. 22. I avoid long-term commitments in relationships.
7. 23. Working for money is slavery; I choose freedom.
8. 24. My desires matter more than the opinion of family or society.

BLOCK 4. The “Geisha” Model (Questions 25–32)

1. 25. The admiration of the crowd matters more to me than the love of one person.
2. 26. My talent demands sacrifices, and love is the first of them.
3. 27. Reputation is the only thing you cannot afford to lose.
4. 28. I am ready to sacrifice my personal life for success and recognition.
5. 29. I am loved only for my achievements, not for who I am.
6. 30. I feel alive only when I am valued as I deserve.
7. 31. Loneliness surrounded by admirers is my normal.
8. 32. I am afraid that without my achievements I will become uninteresting.

BLOCK 5. The “Mistress” Model (Questions 33–40)

1. 33. With him, my life is secure; safety matters more than freedom.
2. 34. I love him, so I will forgive everything, even betrayal.
3. 35. He cannot live without me; I am his salvation and his support.
4. 36. I am more afraid of being alone than of being in a dependent relationship.
5. 37. I am ready to wait for years, just to be near him.
6. 38. Without a partner, I feel incomplete and lost.
7. 39. I forgive everything, because I’m afraid no one else will ever choose me.
8. 40. My worth is defined by whether I am needed by someone.

BLOCK 6. The “Courtesan” Model (Questions 41–48)

1. 41. A person may have many lovers in life; that is normal.
2. 42. He will not resist my charm; I can always win him over.
3. 43. Love is a game in which I must always win.
4. 44. The number of victories matters more than the quality of the relationship.
5. 45. I collect attention from the opposite sex to confirm my own worth.
6. 46. I am bored in stable relationships; I need the hunt.
7. 47. I change partners when they stop fascinating me.
8. 48. My sexuality is the main weapon I have.

BLOCK 7. The “Teresa” Model (Questions 49–56)

1. 49. A person should be known only by their good deeds.
2. 50. What matters is not beauty, but kindness and serving people.
3. 51. I am irreplaceable: if I don’t help, who will?
4. 52. I sacrifice myself so that I will be appreciated and loved.
5. 53. My needs don’t matter compared to the needs of others.
6. 54. I feel guilty if I rest while others are working.
7. 55. Holiness and self-sacrifice are my path to recognition.
8. 56. I help people to prove that I am good.

BLOCK 8. The “Infanta” Model (Questions 57–64)

1. 57. Every person must have someone to lean on; it’s impossible to manage on your own.
2. 58. Everything is allowed to me; after all, I’m not to blame for my mistakes.
3. 59. Decide for me; I don’t know what’s the best thing to do.
4. 60. I’m afraid to make decisions without advice or permission.
5. 61. I need someone who will guide me through life.
6. 62. I feel helpless without another person’s support.
7. 63. Making mistakes is scary; better to let someone else decide.
8. 64. I wait for someone to come along and arrange my life for me.

BLOCK 9. The “Cinderella” Model (Questions 65–72)

1. 65. If I don’t help them, they will be lost; it’s my responsibility.
2. 66. Without me they won’t cope; I must be there.
3. 67. I must earn the right to be loved through service.
4. 68. I can’t say “no,” even when it’s hard for me.
5. 69. I feel guilty if I refuse to help.
6. 70. My desires must come last.
7. 71. I carry everything on my shoulders, because there’s no one else.
8. 72. If I’m not appreciated, it means I haven’t done enough.

BLOCK 10. The “Beggar” Model (Questions 73–80)

1. 73. If you have something, why won’t you share? It’s only fair.
2. 74. The world owes me for my suffering and hardships.
3. 75. A true friend is known in times of trouble; he must help.
4. 76. I demand help because I have the right to it.
5. 77. Others are obliged to take care of me; I am a victim of circumstances.
6. 78. If people don’t help me, it means they are bad and greedy.
7. 79. I am not to blame for my situation; others are.
8. 80. People must give me something, because I have nothing.

BLOCK 11. The “Chameleon” Model (Questions 81–88)

1. 81. With every person you need to speak their language; sincerity is less effective.
2. 82. I have everything, yet something is missing inside me.
3. 83. A person comes into this world alone and leaves alone; that is fatalism.
4. 84. I am convenient for everyone, but I don’t know what I want myself.
5. 85. I avoid conflicts by adjusting to the mood of the person I’m talking to.
6. 86. I am outwardly successful, but I feel an inner emptiness.
7. 87. I confuse my own desires with the desires of those around me.
8. 88. To be convenient means to be accepted; that matters more than the truth.

BLOCK 12. The “Phoenix” Model (Questions 89–100)

1. 89. I accept myself and others without conditions or demands.
2. 90. My life is my choice; I am responsible for my decisions.
3. 91. Love is an action, not a deal or an exchange.
4. 92. I can say “no” without guilt or excuses.
5. 93. I help people not to earn approval, but because I can.
6. 94. My thoughts, words and actions match; I am whole.
7. 95. I am not afraid of mistakes; they are part of my growth.
8. 96. I build relationships on trust, not on control.
9. 97. I feel my own worth regardless of external success.
10. 98. I live for meaning, not for survival or approval.
11. 99. I can be vulnerable without losing my strength.
12. 100. I choose sincerity, even when it’s inconvenient.

SCORING INSTRUCTIONS

Step 1. Add up your score for each block

Add up all the points within each block (8 questions, except for Phoenix, which has 12).

Step 2. Calculate the average score for each model

MODEL	QUESTIONS	MAX. TOTAL	AVERAGE SCORE
Lilith	1–8	40	Total ÷ 8
Puttana	9–16	40	Total ÷ 8
Hippie	17–24	40	Total ÷ 8
Geisha	25–32	40	Total ÷ 8
Mistress	33–40	40	Total ÷ 8
Courtesan	41–48	40	Total ÷ 8
Teresa	49–56	40	Total ÷ 8
Infanta	57–64	40	Total ÷ 8
Cinderella	65–72	40	Total ÷ 8
Beggar	73–80	40	Total ÷ 8
Chameleon	81–88	40	Total ÷ 8
Phoenix	89–100	60	Total ÷ 12

Step 3. Identify the dominant model

AVERAGE SCORE	INTERPRETATION
4.0–5.0	Dominant model. This is your main behavioral pattern right now.
3.0–3.99	Secondary model. It shows up in stressful situations.
1.0–2.99	Weak model. Not characteristic of you in the current period.

Step 4. Find your dominant model (Step 3) on the archetype strength scale: the number beside it is your result, from 1 to 12

STRENGTH	ARCHETYPE	MATURITY LEVEL
12	Phoenix	The peak of development—wholeness, maturity, service
11	Chameleon	Adaptation and the search for oneself—close to the peak
10	Teresa	Service to society—a high level
9	Geisha	Talent and recognition—awareness is growing
8	Lilith	Resources and security—a transitional level
7	Courtesan	Freedom of choice—still tinged with neurosis
6	Hippie	Freedom without responsibility—halfway there
5	Mistress	Dependence through love—the work continues
4	Cinderella	Serving out of guilt—a dependent position
3	Puttana	Rebellion and protest—the point where awareness begins
2	Beggar	Demands and manipulation—the starting point
1	Infanta	Total dependence—the first step of the path

Results 1–4: You are in models of strong dependence. This is your starting point. Awareness is the first step toward transformation.

Results 5–8: You are in a transitional period. You already have some independence, but neurotic patterns remain.

Results 9–11: You are close to the peak. All that’s left is to take a step toward sincerity and wholeness.

Result 12 (Phoenix): Congratulations. You are on the path of maturity. Remember: the Phoenix is a process, not a point of arrival.